Friday, November 12, 2021

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You Can’t Keep Them Down on the Farm After They’ve Seen Paree

I seem not to have made any notes about visiting my parents in June of this year, for the first time since COVID. Well, I did do that and it was wonderful to be with them, as always. I saw Ginny and Amy, as always. I had lunch with Uncle Rick. Sally and I took a walk in the peony garden at the foot of the Nichols Arboretum. The arboretum and peony garden were designed by the person, an Italian count, Aubrey Tealdi, who was the first chair of the landscape architecture department at the University of Michigan. He lived in my childhood home and designed its stunning gardens, which featured pathways filled with gravel imported from Italy. Our lilacs were originally planted by Count Tealdi.

Last week at my flute lesson, my teacher asked if I like sushi, which I do, and asked me to imagine I’d eaten too much wasabi, as one can from time to time. He said imagining that explosive feeling is helpful for playing the flute, and for the rest of the lesson, he called it the too-much-wasabi feeling. The following day at work, a patient told me that someone had brought him sushi from outside the hospital the day before (the day of my flute lesson) and he had ingested too much wasabi and become acutely ill.

Marvin has lately been trying to get out the front door of our apartment, so finally I let him run free. He immediately went everywhere, and was wild and wailing after being carried back indoors. I’ve had to go back to putting him in the bathroom every time I exit my apartment or have to bring my bike in, as I did for several months after adopting him and Duckworth. There is no such problem with Duckworth currently. I can throw the front door open and leave it that way indefinitely (with Marvin in the bathroom) and he will not venture out.

Yesterday I had a sewing lesson in Berkeley, where it was a lovely autumn afternoon. Afterward, I took a walk with a friend up and down the Ohlone Greenway.

At my flute lesson today, my teacher reminded me to blow to the back of the nasal cavity. He said it takes most people twenty years to learn to do this, but that I’ll be able to do it in five. Shamelessly fishing for a compliment, I asked why that was. He said it’s because I’m smart, and added, “Most people don’t have question like you have question.”

I’m obviously never going to be a fantastic shakuhachi player, and so it often seems like a waste of time, though lately it occurred to me that, besides the very detailed awareness of the body it requires, maybe it’s mainly about my relationship with my teacher. Once a week, I spend an hour on Zoom with this very congenial person; the flute is what connects us.

I also have this idea that maybe all this work will translate to amazing trumpet playing some day. I thought my teacher might get a kick out of hearing me play one of the little shakuhachi tunes on the trumpet, so I dug the trumpet out of the closet after my lesson today and discovered that the main thing that is true about the trumpet right now is that I’m very, very rusty. (My chops are way, way down.) I’d have to practice for a while to see if there is anything I can apply from the Japanese wooden flute. For now, I reburied it in the closet.

Another good reason to persist with the shakuhachi is that any kind of creative endeavor is excellent self-care, which my work requires. Making things. I make soup, I make sentences, I (soon will) make shirts (and then a simpler work top, and a tablecloth, and a housedress), I make sounds.

Also, the shakuhachi could not be more low-tech.

And that is what happened today, as in today today. I’m caught up!

The Duckter


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Untoward Cat-Related Event #7814

While practicing the flute (this being late in June of this year), I decided to try to toss the cats’ more luridly colored tunnel (the “Mewnicorn,” which they love) into the closet, where I put all their toys each evening, instead of waiting until the official portion of the evening program that pertains to this, which involves a flashlight and knee pads. Of course they heard the sound of this prized item being handled, possibly even mishandled, and rushed into the living room. While I was trying to kick the tunnel into the closet, my foot got stuck in it. Somewhere along in there, while shrieking obscenities, trying to kick the tunnel off my foot, and flailing around with my left hand, wherein was my flute, I bumped the little sharp edge of the mouthpiece that one is supposed to carefully protect, or else perhaps it happened when I used the flute to deny Marvin entry to the closet.

Also, my music stand fell and scraped and bruised my face, though if I was practicing, my music stand would still have been in the living room rather than in the closet, so maybe this was two different incidents. As the music stand fell, I remember thinking, “My eye!” and feeling very grateful afterward for the bone that surrounds the eye.

I ended up deciding that I had better try to make the spring deadline for board certification, after all, and in a frenzied burst of energy, finished everything up and sent it in not a few weeks before the deadline, but by the deadline. In mid-July, I met with a new committee and I passed! After they gave me the good news, they asked if I had any questions. I asked if they would mind if I did one screen shot of their smiling faces. It’s a really nice thing to have: a photograph of a very joyful moment indeed. Two of the committee members (there were four) said that they would want me to be their chaplain if they needed one, and they said they could feel my calm presence from their respective locations. They also offered some thoughts on where I could seek to improve. They could have just failed me on those particular competencies, meaning I’d have had to make a third committee appearance. I really appreciate that they did not do that.

In August of this year, it was wonderful to hear a Wait Wait … Don’t Tell Me program that was taped in front of a live audience for the first time in about a year and a half. One of the guests was a hydroponic lettuce farmer, who spoke about how fun his work is. Trying not to sound condescending, Peter Sagal asked what’s so fun about growing lettuce. The farmer said something like, “What I like about lettuce is it doesn’t talk back when you’re trying to do your thing.” That’s what I like about lettuce!

Both of my jobs offer a limited number of free counseling sessions each year. I decided to avail myself of this benefit, and began seeing a therapist in September of this year. At our first or second session, Dr. T. taught me Dr. Weil’s 4-7-8 breathing. There’s a video online of Dr. Weil doing this and saying afterward that he can hardly talk, he feels so great. I didn’t notice any immediate benefit, but it is true that you can’t simultaneously do this and scream at your cat, so I guess it is helpful to that extent. I have kept at it, and do often notice that the 7 part is pretty pleasant, and, more generally, it has oriented me toward calming myself: activating the parasympathetic nervous system.

A huge spider appeared on my living room ceiling and remained there for weeks. Don’t they need to eat? My father said he was having a similar question about a small spider in his bathroom. Finally, I decided to try to relocate it. My father texted to wish me well in my “spidetarian endeavor.”

In late September, which is almost now, I had my first sewing lesson, with a very nice teacher in Berkeley who has a large, wonderful basement workroom. We are working on making a pattern from one of the button shirts I wear to work, so that I can make my own with any cotton fabric I want.

That same day, I met my flute teacher in person for the first time, when he met me at North Berkeley BART to hand over the bamboo flute made for me by Monty of shakuhachi.com. My teacher was quite shy in person, very different from how he is on Zoom. He drove us a block or so away from BART, and I got out and gave my new flute a preliminary try. My teacher lent me a hard case for taking it home on BART. I also bought a soft case for everyday use, and a little cover for the mouthpiece end.

At work, I visited a man whose cancer has recurred, who speaks in a very roundabout way about his predicament, often referring to himself as “one.” “One does not like to think one is hugging one’s wife for the last time.”

At our second or third visit, he kept saying something about my having such conversations with many people. I finally figured out that he was saying I must therefore have some basis for judging whether someone is good or bad, and whether their life has been worthwhile. I asked him, “Are you asking if I think you’re a good person and if your life has been worthwhile?” He confirmed that’s what he was getting at.

I paused and said with strong emphasis, “I think you’re a good person and I think your life has been worthwhile.” I very nearly burst into tears after I left his room.

Green and Yellow


(Click photo to enlarge. This photo was taken three and a half hours before I fetched Marvin and Duckworth from the SPCA. Since then, this window has never been opened except under close supervision.)

Flexible and Enjoying

In February, 2021, I was working away on my written materials for my board certification second committee appearance. By early March, it became clear that my essays were not going to be ready to send in for the April deadline, as it is best to send them in at least a few weeks before the actual date. In any event, I decided that I wanted to allow myself a period of observing my clinical practice with a particular focus on the things my mentor had pointed out. I thought it would be good to deepen my understanding of what my growing edges truly are and see what happened when I tried new things, which seemed like something that should not be rushed. My mentor agreed, and a welcome sense of ease set in.

While preparing my application, I had planned to read all the chaplaincy books I own that I have not yet read, plus reread the ones I thought might be particularly helpful, but in the course of three months, I managed to read just one slender volume, so I abandoned that idea. With no deadline looming, I picked up one of the many Sue Grafton murder mysteries sitting on my shelf, and my life suddenly seemed significantly improved.

Similarly, rather than having a flute lesson every week and aiming to practice 30 minutes a day—there is only so much lousy shakuhachi playing a person can be expected to listen to—meaning myself—I decided to have a lesson every two weeks, and practice just 15 or 20 minutes a day, which would also save money.

My flute teacher sent out an email to several of his students in which he used Dr. before my last name. I wrote to the group:

Dear Sensei,

Thank you so much for the upgrade, but I’m afraid I am not a physician. (I am a hospital chaplain at [this hospital] and [that hospital].)

You probably figured that since I can get a sound out of the shakuhachi only intermittently, I must excel in some other area. Alas not. :-)

I look forward to meeting your community one of these days.

Best,
Bugwalk


Practicing the shakuhachi, I found myself more often thinking about where air could fill a real or imaginary area rather than how to make a sound, and it was more relaxing, a form of meditation. At one lesson, my teacher said, “We are flexible and enjoying.”

In mid-May, there was a thrilling breakthrough. I had been practicing two little songs with twelve notes apiece for weeks and weeks. I had two horrible lessons in a row, especially the second, where I never produced any sort of sound. I began to think I would have to find a teacher in San Francisco I could meet with in person—I just was not getting this over Zoom. Or maybe I should just give up. I consulted Tom, who said, “No, it’s coming along. Keep at it.”

And then, during a lesson one day, I suddenly and immediately produced a clear, beautiful, round sound. I played songs one and two with ease. My teacher asked me to play songs three and four, which I easily did. He said, “You can skip five through seven. Play song eight.” I sight-read it, and then he said, “You’re done with this page.” Very encouraging.

In April, 2021, I saw Carol-Joy in person for the first time in more than a year! We had lunch at Toast, sitting outside, and then played cards at her place.

Around that time, I was the co-teacher for a class on the brahma viharas, which in Pali means the Divine Abodes: loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy, and equanimity. (“Sympathetic joy” means to feel happy for the good fortune of others and is said to be the most challenging of these practices.) I worked with two different CPE students to teach metta (loving-kindness) and upekkha (equanimity). The students were delightful to collaborate with, and writing and delivering short talks on those topics was very helpful to me. Since then, I do at least a bit of metta practice every time I meditate.

In May, 2021, Tom and I went to visit his family in Sacramento for the first time since COVID.

At work, I often see the abbreviation OLT for a liver transplant or OHT for a heart transplant, but never OKT for a kidney transplant—why not? Well, it’s because the O stands for orthotopic: “straight place,” meaning that the new organ is put in the same place where the previous such organ resided. This is typical for heart and liver transplants, but not for kidneys, because the old kidneys are not removed; the new kidneys go on top of old ones. (A person might get one new kidney, or two, or get two aging kidneys in hopes they will take the place of one robust kidney.)

I did ask J. to be my Zen teacher, with some trepidation that it might be a big time commitment, but he said he thinks of it more as a spiritual friend relationship, rather than a teacher-student relationship, and he said he would be happy for us to have that kind of relationship. He said he would like for us to talk at least every six or eight weeks, which sounded perfect.

I told him a bit about what was happening in my life, including challenges that are not mine to share here, but affect me, and he had some very helpful words: to keep opening to what is here and to allow it to teach us. “Don’t squander even this!”

Together



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God's Job

In January, 2021, we were advised to double mask. (This era did not last long. My second job sent out a notice saying that we were disinvited to use cloth masks at work, and that two surgical masks were not more effective than one surgical mask, so just use one.) At the time, I was trying to order some face shields, such as we have at work, to use at home and that was quite frustrating. There were several items on Amazon that appeared identical to the hospital PPE but proved not to be. There were also a lot of details to keep track of, as PPE procedures and requirements for patient visits differed slightly between the two hospitals where I work.

That month also found me still trying to get a decent sound out of the shakuhachi. Learning over Zoom is far from ideal.

On February first, 2021, I got my second COVID vaccine and had lunch with a friend at Publico.

When I began to work with my board certification mentor, one of the first things she did was to ask to see the report from my first committee. This is a document my next committee would never see, so I felt a bit reluctant: why? Let’s just move on. Then I took a look at the report and remembered how minimal it is. It basically says nothing, so there didn’t seem to be any harm in sending it to my mentor, so I did.

Then we connected on the phone and I could not believe how helpful she was. We spoke for nearly an hour, leaving me with a completely new view of how to proceed with my written materials. She has an exceedingly clear and holistic view of our enterprise and how our stuff manifests and might be worked with.

I got an email from her in which she mentioned her Zen teacher. I of course have a teacher: Howie. He will always be my teacher, and I hear his words in my head often, but I didn’t have a true, ongoing conversation with a teacher, and this I wanted.

I now and then had thought of asking J., the teacher who co-led the street retreat I went on in September, 2019, to be my teacher. Traditionally, in Zen, you have to ask the teacher three times before he or she says yes. I called a friend who is a student of J. to see what the time commitment is, because I had and have none. She said it can potentially be very little. She said J. likes to connect every month or couple of months, and he likes you to come to certain monthly ceremonies (via Zoom) if you can, and he likes you to undertake a course of study of some sort, and he likes you to have a creative outlet.

Speaking of the latter, for a while, I was faithfully practicing the shakuhachi about 30 minutes a day, but it had fallen by the wayside several days before I had this conversation with my friend, and I had been thinking of not scheduling another lesson, but this would be certainly a creative outlet, even if I just practiced 15 minutes a day and had a lesson only once a month.

After I spoke with my friend, I emailed J. to ask if I might speak with him on the phone, and that same afternoon, I had a shakuhachi lesson. I was still working on that same one note: open D, though in my case, it’s more like D sharp. (As it turns out, intonation is not an important value when it comes to the Japanese bamboo flute. My teacher said there’s not really such a thing as a shakuhachi orchestra because the intonation varies from person to person.)

When my teacher and I got on the Zoom call for that lesson, I said, “I haven’t been practicing.”

“Good, good,” he smiled. I really like this fellow.

I made a few attempts to get D to come out, with little success.

“Are you trying to make a sound?” asked my teacher.

“Yes!” I said. (Of course I’m trying to make a sound! What else would I be doing?)

“God’s job,” he reminded me.

I barely got any clear sound out of the flute that whole entire hour. A typical piece of advice from my teacher is to feel the right side of my forehead, and then the left. Which sort of thing often works!

Sunday, October 31, 2021

Breakfast

 
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Plastic Flute

On January 3, 2021, I got the first dose of Moderna’s COVID vaccine. I arrived 40 minutes early—I was paranoid about being late and losing my spot. I thought they were going to say, “We’re practicing social distancing. Please stand outside until your appointment time,” but they invited me right in. The process was very smooth. They were only doing first doses at this location, with the second dose to be given elsewhere.

After I got the shot, I got a card documenting it, and a sticker for my work badge, and I had to sit down for 15 minutes to make sure I felt fine. About five minutes into the 15 minutes, I began to feel a slight pressure in my chest. This occurs from time to time, and so my heart has been checked over and over, and I also spent an entire night in the hospital about ten years ago plus several hours in the ED a couple of years ago for this same symptom, with no problem ever being found. On the other hand, this time it occurred five minutes after getting the COVID vaccine, so I mentioned it to the young lady who had given me the vaccine, and this was taken very seriously, though I made a point of telling everybody I discussed it with that I am a known hypochondriac.

I sat for a second 15 minutes, and then a nurse came from the ED and said they would like me to be treated in the ED. I was pretty sure this would mean six hours of hanging around in the ED (right near lots of COVID patients), followed by a long bike ride home in the dark wet, and possibly a large bill—with no finding of any heart problem—so I hinted that I was feeling better, though I really sort of wasn’t, and agreed that I would sit for a third 15 minutes and then start walking home with a friend of mine who was also there getting her vaccination, and this proposal was accepted.

My friend and I walked for several blocks, and then her husband picked her up in their car, and I rode home. By then, I was starting to feel some twinges in my shoulder near where the shot had been placed, and I still felt the pressure in my chest, and I also felt so fatigued that I got into bed as soon as I got home. The pain in my shoulder worsened steadily all evening and made it impossible to lie on that side that night. The fatigue abated after an hour or two. The pressure in my chest stayed all evening but seemed basically gone the next morning.

The next day, I didn’t notice the chest tightness or fatigue; my shoulder continued to hurt for a day or two.

And then it was January 6, 2021, and I was sitting in front of my computer watching the horrendous events instigated by our own President—I remember wondering what was taking the National Guard so long—and my eye fell on a thing in the New York Times: five minutes that will make you love the flute. I listened for a minute or two and still didn’t love the flute, but I remembered that sometimes I’m getting a massage, and the person plays music that sounds like rain dripping in a forest, with a haunting wooden flute sound which I like very much. Is this the Japanese wooden flute? (Much later, I found out it was more likely a Native American wooden flute. Which is much easier to play than what I now do play.) I Duck Ducked that, and next thing I knew, I was signed up for shakuhachi lessons with a really nice fellow in Berkeley.

The shakuhachi is a bamboo flute, and once upon a time, only samurai were allowed to play it, as part of their Zen training, but now any schlub can have at it. My new teacher recommended beginning with a more affordable epoxy version of this instrument, called the Yuu. (Available you know where.)

My plastic shakuhachi arrived and I found that I could not get a sound out of it. It’s basically just a tube with holes in it. As my teacher says, “This is a very primitive instrument. Body is the main instrument.”

I also found sound elusive at my first online lesson, though I immediately liked my teacher a lot. He advised that I should knock on the door of the spirits and God would make the sound. I did not succeed in making any sound during that whole first hour-long lesson, but later that night, while looking in the bathroom mirror, I made a sound! I made a little five-second video to send to my teacher and a few others. My teacher wrote back immediately and enthusiastically. At my second lesson, five days later, he declared that my sound was “ten times better.”

I made arrangements around then with two people to mentor me for my next try at board certification as a chaplain. One of them was a former CPE supervisor of mine whom I’m very fond of. I was put in touch with the other by my friend Sam, and she proved to be a dynamo. Her advice was superb, and she responded almost immediately to any piece of writing I sent her.

Marvin leapt one day onto the breakfast table, sloshing tea out of both cups. I was on the phone with my father and yelled, “God—excuse my language—fucking damn it!” A moment later, I said, “Sorry about my language. That was very annoying.”

My father said, “That’s okay. I’ve heard the word ‘annoying’ before.”